Life’s too short (part 4)

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By Angela Morris

How hard do you have to try to succeed?

  Hi All. Welcome back to my  “Life’s too short” series! I hope you have been able to glean something of benefit to you from what I have been sharing for the past two weeks. If so please feel free  to either register with the site or leave a comment on facebook. 

 

 

Now, to answer the main question above depends on a some probing questions:

 

 

1. What are you specifically trying to achieve?

2. Do your goals match your skills and talents?

3. What is your motivating factor for achieving?

“Oh Angela, please!” you may be saying.     Yes I know… of course it’s introspective, this is all about you! I make no apologies as many of us are suffering from neglect in one form or another (but I will save that subject for another time). In the meantime its first things first especially as life is so short!

In part 3 of this series we touched the subject of self-esteem and its traits for positive or low. Some of us have been influenced by others to the degree that we are actually trying to accomplish the dreams of someone else! This could be our parents, teachers, friends or even our employers. In order to help evaluate whose dream you are living ask yourself the following searching questions:  

  • Am I doing this because in reality, I don’t want to disappoint people?
  • Do I really look forward to going to work, because it chose this career?
  • Would I change my career tomorrow, if no one I care about would be upset?
  • Do I feel forced to follow in someone else’s footsteps, rather than my own? 
  • If the answer to any of these is “yes” then perhaps you’re not in your dream but someone else’s.      Some people might well   argue that it is unrealistic for everyone to get what they want and you just have to settle for what you can get!

The funny thing is these comments are usually made by those people who do the exact opposite for themselves!  Dare I say its easier to pull down than to build up. The latter would mean giving of yourself! The other problem of course if you can identify with this how are you going to change it? Hmm….good question! One of my favourite riddles is: “How do you eat an elephant?” Answer: “Piece by piece”. In other words you have to move forward in small steps to complete the whole.  To attempt everything all in one go is potentially a recipe for disaster!  However  more importantly you will be healthier emotionally and mentally in the long run, if you work in stages. It can be done if you want to do it: Why? Because….  

Life’s too short

 

Further Reading:

  Are-you-living-someone-elses-dream?  

Just helping someone else fulfil their dream?           

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